BE SIGNIFICANT however you are called! AMEN!
by Anna Atsu
Names are very important. Names create authority, meaning, and identity. They shape both individual and collective recognition, and perceptions and influence our interactions. Whether applied to people, places, or things, names carry a weight that goes beyond mere linguistic symbols. Names are not just labels; they are powerful tools that shape our understanding and relationships. Keep reading before you say “Amen”.
If your name sounds like “Amen,” everyone should simply say “Amen” to what you say. Here is what I read, kindly shared by Dr. Daniel Amen—not any kind of charlatan, but a physician, psychiatrist, teacher, and multiple New York Times best-selling author.
Transitioning from the importance of names to relationship advice, here are five judicious rules for cultivating successful connections. Whether you've contemplated these rules for a successful relationship or find them to be an innovation in your understanding, I have an impression you might say “Amen” at the end of this article. If they can guide you through your relationships, even better! Let me share them with you.
Here are five things you should never do if you want to have great relationships:
“Say everything you think in a relationship.”
Once, comedian Jerry Seinfeld said:
“We all have stupid, violent, sexual thoughts that no one should ever hear.”
The first piece of good advice to say “amen” to is:
Filter your thoughts before expressing them; avoid saying everything in a relationship. It is not knowledge but good communication that leads to understanding and harmony.
“Have no goals for it.”
The second rule for success is to have clarity about what you want.
Does your behaviour align with your relationship goals?
“Often say no.”
The third principle is one you can't say ‘no’ to.
If someone wants attention, affection, or your time, make room for it. The more you say no, the more the person dear to your heart may seek it elsewhere. This approach may work inversely for two-year-olds, but you will discern when to employ it:
“It is normal for two-year-old children to assert their independence and automatically say ‘no.’ If I wanted a kiss from one of my kids when they were two, I’d often use reverse psychology and say I didn’t want a kiss, which generally worked (don’t judge me for being manipulative).”
— D. Amen
Notice what you don’t like in a relationship.
The fourth “no” goes to “not liking.” If you focus on what you don’t like, you will get a lot more of what you don’t like in the relationship. As the saying goes:
“When you focus on good, the good becomes even better.”
Make other people, other things like work, or other friendships more important than your significant relationship.
“Burnout occurs when our lives become unbalanced, and we overextend ourselves in one area while ignoring another,” writes Amen in “Your Brain is Always Listening.” Focus on your significant relationships, work on them, and make them the most important. Even if you think your significant ones know they are important to you, they might not feel that way if you give your priorities elsewhere. Identify and tackle any bad habits that steal your time.
In his book, Amen underlines the significance of hidden influences. Unless you recognise and deal with them, they can steal your happiness and spoil your relationships.
In conclusion, thoughtful communication fosters understanding and harmony, and clarity of goals ensures coherence and purpose.
Avoiding excessive negativity and cultivating a positive focus is crucial.
Recognising the priority of significant relationships over competing influences is underscored.
Well, we all do things we should never do.
The imperative is to forgive yourself for misconceptions and mistakes, to align actions with sincere intentions and prayers, transform aspirations into realities rather than passive hopes.
Communicate clearly and affirmatively, prioritise and forgive today and in the days to follow.
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Thank you for article, I enjoyed it. Very important highlights in relationships .